Thursday, April 20, 2006

Our Friendship -Mrs. B and Mrs. R

Mrs. B and I (Mrs. R) have been friends for almost 4 years now. I met Mrs. B when my husband (fiancé at the time) and I began attending the church that Mrs. B and her husband attended. We were attracted to each other pretty quickly because we had so much in common. We both love to read, we both enjoy discussing Biblical topics, and we both have very similar Biblical convictions.

Through the last four years our friendship has endured, even though we haven’t lived in the same state for three of the four years. The key to our long distance friendship is communication. We e-mail daily and we talk on the phone once a week.

Also, we are very respectful of each other’s schedule. We don’t even live in the same time zone, but we find a good time to talk. We talk when our husbands are at work, so that we don’t cut in on each other’s hubby time.

When we talk we try to stay positive with our conversations. We try and steer clear of gossip. We speak positively about our husbands and we don’t discuss every little detail of our marriage.

It is a very good friendship that has grown through the many events in our lives. I am very thankful for my good friend, Mrs. B.


Mrs. B~

I've always been the kind of person that has treasured my friendships. I don't take my friendships lightly and I don't have tons of friends. Oh, I have quite a few people that I like, love, care about, and would do anything for......but I like having just a few close friends. And Mrs. R is one of those few, cherished friends.

Mrs. R and I (Mrs. B) have seen a lot of changes in each other's lives in the four years of our friendship....one of those things being my husband's job change and us moving to a different state. And as she mentioned above, our friendship has endured and I think is even stronger now than ever. I've seen us both do a lot of growing up in the last 4 years and I think that is a big key......we both grew.

One of the things that Mrs. R did for me that I'll never forget is......when my husband and I moved, we had to move into a hotel, to live, for 2 1/2 months....with 2 large dogs. That was a scary thing for me......new job, moving to a state where we knew NOONE, the hotel being an hour away from where my husband's job was, so I was alone for much of the day, and pretty much being confined to the hotel room all day. Oh and I forgot to mention, all of our belongings were being stored by the moving company so I had no access to e-mail except the few times we could go to Kinkos.


We had pre-arranged to have a P.O. box so that our mail would be forwarded and when we arrived on our first day into the city we checked our P.O. box and what was waiting for me?.....a card/letter from Mrs. R! It just brightened my whole day and I remember feeling like 'This is going to be o.k.' But that's not all....she faithfully wrote to me at least once aweek and a lot of times twice a week. We became penpals. I still have every letter she wrote. I would read them over and over and it helped me to remember that even though I didn't know anyone, I still had my best friend who cared about me, missed me and wanted to keep in touch with me.

Mrs. R doesn't have the time to have her own blog but she graciously helps me with mine. If she didn't talk me through it, over the phone, I still wouldn't know how to add links to my side bar. (o; She reassured me that 'Yes, I could figure out the 'techie' stuff" and "Yes, I'll be able to think of enough stuff to write about." She is a constant source of sincere encouragement to me.



My ideas of what makes a 'true friend' have changed (and hopefully matured) over the years. Reading 'Are You Serious About Marriage', the book I posted about earlier in the week helped me to see some of my faulty thinking about friendship. I used to think that you had to tell each other 'everything' and be together quite a bit but that has not proven to be the case. Mrs. R and I have spent more of our friendship living far away from each other than we have living close, so we don't get to spend much time together. I think the distance enables us to share but not intrude. We are a part of each other's lives but we both believe and know that God and our families come before anything else. Sometimes in this modern day and age I think we have a tendancy to reveal too much and are too intertwined in each other's lives. To quote 'Are You Serious About Marriage?' Mrs. Zakula says "We have so much free time in our generation. In previous eras, women were forced to be more focused on their families. If a woman did not work morning and night, there were not clothes for the family and food to eat. Husbands were working morning and night to bring in what little monies they could. Husbands and wives were fulfilled in each other in their mutual effort to bear and rear children, and provide shelter and food. Fellowship with other women, except for wealthy folk, was pretty much limited to Sunday church or an occasional visit."


Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying it's wrong to have friends or spend time with them. But we must be very careful that we don't neglect our families for friends and 'personal fulfillment'. I've had some unhealthy friendships in the past.......friendships where my priorities were wrong and gossip took place. Mercifully, God removed us from each other's lives.

I'm so thankful for my friendship with Mrs. R!

I'm also so thankful for my new blog friends. It's so wonderful to communicate with such like-minded sisters in Christ. (o:

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

My New Outfit

Here's a picture of an outfit I just ordered. To see it closer and to see where I got it go here. I also ordered some pink shoes to go with it. I have to buy most of my clothes on-line because I am plus size. And because I live in a very small town with very little shopping options available. I praise the Lord for the internet so that I don't have to walk around naked! (o;

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

The Folded Napkin

I heard an Evangelist preach a sermon on this once, a long time ago, and while getting ready today God brought it to my mind again. John 20:1-7 is where it is in the Bible but I'm especially referring to verse 7 which says "And the napkin, that was about his head, not lying with the linen clothes, but wrapped together in a place by itself." The napkin was not just laying there with the discarded grave clothes......it was separated from the grave clothes and folded neatly.

God doesn't just put things in the Bible for no reason, which means this action has significance. But what is it? Well, to understand it more fully you have to go back to the Hebrew tradition of that day. The folded napkin had to do with the Master and the Servant, and every Jewish boy knew this tradition. When the servant set the dinner table for the master, he made sure that it was exactly the way the master wanted it. The table was set perfectly, and then the servant would wait, just out of sight, until the master had finished eating, and the servant would not dare to touch the table until the master was finished.

Now if the master were done eating, he would rise from the table, wipe his fingers, his mouth, and clean his beard, and would wad up that napkin and toss it onto the table. The servant would then know to clear the table because in those days, the wadded napkin meant, "I'm done". But if the master got up from the table, and folded his napkin, and laid it beside his plate, the servant would not dare touch the table, because the servant knew that the folded napkin meant, "I'm not finished yet." The folded napkin meant, "I'm coming back!"


Imagine the despair the disciples were going through. They had seen miracle after miracle and even when Jesus tried to explain to them that He was going to die but He would be coming back (John 16:16), they still didn't understand (John 16:17). So when they watched them crucify Him it really shook their faith. Then after 3 days, they saw an empty tomb. Not only did they see an empty tomb, but they saw a folded napkin in that empty tomb! I'm speculating here, but as my Preacher says, 'Let's use our sanctified imaginations'. I really think that when they saw that folded napkin God spoke to their hearts and said, "He's not finished yet, He's coming back!" I think that even before He appeared to them the folded napkin brought to them, a little glimmer of hope. I think they understood that the folded napkin meant something.....after all, they were all Hebrews and undoubtedly knew the tradition. I believe that was their first clue that He was coming back....and He did. Jesus appeared to all of the disciples and more than 500 people (1 Corinthians 15:6).
Praise the Lord! I also believe that the folded napkin has significance for us today. I believe a correct application can also be made that He is coming back for his own (the saved) someday.

"For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words."

~~1 Thessalonians 4:16-18~~



I heard a sermon on this subject preached several years ago but I wanted to review some of the facts of the Hebrew tradition so I used
this site to refresh my memory.

The Tea Pot

There was a couple who used to go to England to shop in the beautiful stores. They both liked antiques and pottery and especially tea pots. This was their twenty-fifth wedding anniversary.

One day in this beautiful shop they saw a beautiful tea pot. They said, "May we see that? We've never seen one quite so beautiful."

As the lady handed it to them, suddenly the tea pot spoke. "You don't understand," it said. "I haven't always been a tea pot. There was a time when I was red and I was clay. My master took me and rolled me and patted me over and over and I yelled out,'let me alone', but he only smiled, 'Not yet'."

"Then I was placed on a spinning wheel," the tea pot said, "and suddenly I was spun around and around and around. 'Stop it! I'm getting dizzy!' I screamed". But the master only nodded and said, 'Not yet.'

Then he put me in the oven. I never felt such heat. I wondered why he wanted to burn me, and I yelled and knocked at the door. I could see him through the opening and I could read his lips as He shook his head, 'Not yet.'

Finally the door opened, he put me on the shelf, and I began to cool. 'There, that's better,' I said. And he brushed and painted me all over. The fumes were horrible. I thought I would gag. 'Stop it, stop it!' I cried. He only nodded, 'Not yet.'

Then suddenly he put me back into the oven, not like the first one. This was twice as hot and I knew I would suffocate. I begged. I pleaded. I screamed. I cried. All the time I could see him through the opening nodding his head saying, 'Not yet.'

Then I knew there wasn't any hope. I would never make it. I was ready to give up. But the door opened and he took me out and placed me on the shelf. One hour later he handed me a mirror and said, 'Look at yourself. And I did. I said, 'That's not me; that couldn't be me. It's beautiful. I'm beautiful.'

"I want you to remember then", he said, "I know it hurts to be rolled and patted, but if I had left you alone, you'd have dried up.

I know it made you dizzy to spin around on the wheel, but if I had stopped, you would have crumbled. I knew it hurt and was hot and disagreeable in the oven, but if I hadn't put you there, you would have cracked.

I know the fumes were bad when I brushed and painted you all over, but if I hadn't done that, you never would have hardened; you would not have had any color in your life. And if I hadn't put you back in that second oven, you wouldn't survive for very long because the hardness would not have held. Now you are a finished product. You are what I had in mind when I first began with you."

MORAL:

God knows what He's doing (for all of us). He is the Potter, and we are His clay. He will mold us and make us, so that we may be made into a flawless piece of work to fulfill His good, pleasing, and perfect will.

".....Shall the clay say to him that fashioneth it, What makest thou? or thy work, He hath no hands?" ~Isaiah 45:9~


I read this at
Mom of 9's place.

Monday, April 17, 2006

Has he Succeeded?

Satan called a worldwide convention. In his opening address to his evil angels he said, "We can't keep the Christians from going to church. We can't keep them from reading their Bibles and knowing the truth. We can't even keep them from forming and intimate, abiding relationship with Christ. However, if they gain that connection with Jesus, our power over them is broken. So...... let them go to their churches, let them have their conservative lifestyles, but STEAL THEIR TIME so they can't gain that close relationship with Jesus Christ. This is what I want you to do, angels......Distract them from gaining hold of their Saviour and maintaining that vital connection throughout their day!!!!"

"How shall we do this?" shouted the angels?

"Keep them busy in the NON-ESSENTIALS of life and invent innumerable schemes to occupy their minds," he answered. "Tempt them to SPEND, SPEND, SPEND and BORROW, BORROW, BORROW. Persuade the wives to go to work for long hours and the husbands to work 6-7 days each week, 10-12 hours a day, so they can afford their EMPTY lifestyles. Keep them from spending time with their children. As their family fragments soon their home life will offer no escape from the pressures of work!! Over-stimulate their minds so that they cannot hear that STILL, SMALL VOICE."

"Entice them to play the radio or cassette player whenever they drive. To keep the TV, VCR, CD'S and their PC's going CONSTANTLY in their home and see to it that every store and restaurant in the world plays un-Biblical music, constantly. This will jam their minds and break that union with Christ."

"Fill the coffee tables with magazines and newspapers. Pound their minds with the news 24 hours a day. Invade their driving moments with billboards. Flood their mailboxes with junk mail, mail order catalogs, sweepstakes, and every kind of newsletter and promotional offering free products, services and FALSE HOPES. Constantly have 'beautiful' perfect-looking people on the convers of magazines and on TV so that they will become dissatisfied with their spouse because they think EXTERNAL beauty is what's REALLY important. That will fragment those families QUICKLY!!"

"Even in their recreation, let them be excessive. Have them return from their recreation exhausted, disquieted and unprepared for the coming week. Don't let them go out in nature to reflect on God's wonders. Send them to AMUSEMENT PARKS, SPORTING EVENTS, CONCERTS, and MOVIES instead. Keep them BUSY, BUSY, BUSY! And when they meet for spiritual fellowship involve them in gossip and small talk so that they leave with troubled consciences and unsettled emotions."

"Go ahead, let them be involved with soul-winning; but crowd their minds with so many GOOD CAUSES that they have no time to seek power from Jesus, through prayer. Soon they will be working in their OWN strength, sacrificing their health and family for the good of the cause. IT WILL WORK! IT WILL WORK!"

It was quite a convention. The evil angels went eagerly to their assignments causing Christians everywhere to get more BUSY and more RUSHED going here and there. I guess the question is: HAS THE DEVIL BEEN SUCCESSFUL AT HIS SCHEME?

You be the judge.......


~~Author Unknown~~

Home-Sweet-Home Meme

What is your favourite room in your home? Why? What is it like?

*This is hard because I really like all of our home.....but I'd have to answer our living room. We bought a brand new red leather sofa and 2 chairs that coordinate with the sofa (we had the chairs upolstered with fabric that we chose). The room has a book case that my grandfather made for my grand mother out of real cherry wood and in the corner on a big easel is a needle point taken from the famous painting 'A Young Girl Reading' (you can see this at the
Ladies Against Feminism site in their header). I watched my grandmother make it when I was a young girl....I treasure it and it is BEAUTIFUL!! The walls are a rich, golden yellow which plays nicely off of the red accents. We also have my childhood piano in there (even though I don't really play). I also love our dining room. We recently bought a beautiful new dining table and chairs and I love the crystal chandelier that I bought on-line. The dining room is the first thing you see when you walk into our home.

What is your least favourite room in your home? Why? Can you bear to share?

*Our upstairs bathroom. Our house was built in 1963 and the wallpaper is the original wallpaper. Our bathtub, sink and toilet are blue.....once we change those things it will be nice.

In which room do you spend most time? Why?

*Since starting my blog, that would be the upstairs bedroom/office! LOL Honestly, we use all of our house. Our home is a tri-level that's about 2300 square feet and we use all of it!

Which room do you try to avoid? Why?

*There isn't one.......decorating is a process and I decided long ago that I wasn't going to only like the 'perfectly decorated' rooms in our home.


What was the last thing you bought for your home?

*A lovely towel set for our downstairs bathroom. Some pictures for the same bathroom. Then I used a small, old round table that was in my grandmother's house, in a corner. Then I put some silk, purple hydrangeas in a vase with marbles and a candle and some potpourri on the table. My husband said that when I was done that the room was transformed.....which made me glow! (o:

What was the last thing you made for your home?

*I don't sew but I'm pretty good at figuring out other uses for items, instead of what they're intended for.

Name one pet hate that you think makes for a less sweet home.

*Papers everywhere and things that are not put away.

Specify one quick tip for a home sweeter home!

*Be satisfied with where you're at in life. Everything in your home may not be 'ideal' but it's your lovely spirit that makes it 'home' for your family. Beautiful decor without a lovely spirit is dry and stilted.....and it just sucks the beauty right out of your home.


I tag anyone willing to post in the comments section or with a link to her own blog! :o)

Hat tip:
Mrs. Wilt

Friday, March 31, 2006

The B-I-B-L-E Yes, that's the book for me!

A Guest Post By Mrs. R:

I wanted to share some ideas to jam-pack your day full of God’s word.

Hebrews 4:12 "For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart."
Psalm 119:11 "Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee."

~Listen to the Bible on CD/cassette in the car.

~Watch the Bible on DVD. I do enjoy my KJV on DVD. At around $30 for the entire Bible this is a deal. My Bible on CD cost around $80. And the DVD Bible is only 2 DVD’s .

Check it out at
http://www.biblesondvd.com/ .


~Listen to the Bible on CD or cassette in the kitchen.


~Write verses on notecards and keep the notecards in your purse. When you are in line somewhere take a card out and work on memorizing a verse.


~ Have the kids read the Bible to you.


~ Keep a Bible in the bathroom.


~ Post scriptures around the house.
Colossians 3:16 - "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly........"


Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines 'dwell' as:

DWELL, v.i. pret. dwelled, usually contracted into dwelt. [See Dally.]

1. To abide as a permanent resident, or to inhabit for a time; to live in a place; to have a habitation for some time or permanence.


I would love to hear how you incorporate Bible reading and memorization into your daily life.